There is no doubt that teens today are living in a high-pressure world. The day-to-day instability of the world around them leads them into a desperate search for security and significance in a complicated culture.
In their generation, many of them are making poor choices that lead to devastating consequences such as drugs, alcohol, and promiscuous sex all in effort to create some kind of relationship to meet the need “to belong”.
Common reasons teenagers come to counseling are:
- Abuse and/or Assault
- Abortion recovery and healing
- Anger
- Anxiety
- Bullying
- Date assault/abuse/violence
- Depression
- Drugs and/or alcohol
- Communication conflict in relationships
- Gender Conflict
- Grief
- Guilt
- Family or Friendship Drama
- Loneliness
- Managing Social Media/Gaming Time/Influence
- Mood disorders and/or diagnosis
- Parental Divorce
- Parent Conflict
- Peer Pressure
- Pornography/Sexting/Social Media Pressure for Nude pictures
- Pre-marital Sex
- Recovery from suicide attempt
- Spiritual doubt or questions regarding worldview or faith
- Self-Harm
- Suicidal Ideation
- Unplanned pregnancy
- Communication Difficulties with Peers and Parents
- Mood Disorders under psychiatric care/meds
- Self-Harm & Suicidal Ideation and/or Post attempt recovery
The list is long, yet not exhaustive. Many other challenges impact the lives of thousands of teens such as:
- Growing up in blended families, some more than one or two times
- The loss of a parent to divorce, death or prison is at an all-time high
- Homes with no father present
- Conflict with a parent after adopting a new identity, spiritual or religious affiliation since childhood
- Homes with one or more adult in their life battling addiction or unhealed traumatic experiences
Somewhere in the middle of all that, parents are trying to create some kind of relationship with their child, trying to understand, but failing to do so. There is HOPE.
Hope begins with a fresh understanding. Being intentional with your child, establishing good values and morals into thinking patterns that lead to better outcomes can be done.
You cannot change their past, their feelings, decisions and/or circumstances, but you CAN impact the thinking and behavior of your children by intentional, consistent messages of their unique identity and purpose in life beginning with hope.
Walking in partnership with you as a parent is the goal. Helping you learn how to be a safe place to vent, a secure person that will stay when all else leaves or falls apart, and grasping the concept of forgiveness is key in beginning to dismantle the lies and junk that gets in their ears, eyes, and heart.
A renewed sense of hope begins with not adopting or conforming to what the world or the culture sends as truth, but transform, re-work, adapt to the truth of who they are, and how they are designed to become will set them free.
Romans 12:2 (NIV) says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
If your child is under the age of 18 years of age, parental consent must be signed to counsel one on one.